What Do People Really Talk About During the Holidays?

The holiday season is not just about celebrations; it's a chance to connect deeply with others. As an etiquette and protocol expert, I’ve discovered that encouraging meaningful conversations at Christmas events can forge lasting memories and enhance relationships.

The Gift of Connection: Choosing Topics That Warm the Heart

In the spirit of the season, people gravitate toward light, inclusive, and engaging conversations. Here are some ideas to keep your holiday interactions joyful and meaningful:

1. Cherished Traditions and Stories

Nothing brings people together like sharing memories of Christmas past. Ask about family traditions or share your own to foster nostalgia and connection.

Pro Tip: When hosting, consider incorporating a “tradition share” moment where guests exchange their favorite holiday customs.

2. Holiday Preparations

Baking cookies, finding the perfect gift, or decorating the house—these are common threads that bind us during the holidays. Setting the table for your holiday meal can be a new tradition or one you continue. Adding family heirlooms to the table and sharing holiday prep stories can lead to laughter, camaraderie, and heartfelt memories.

Etiquette Tip: Be mindful of not overloading the conversation with comparisons or critiques; the focus should remain on shared joy and the reason for the Season.

3. Personal Updates with a Festive Twist

The holidays are a great time to reflect on the past year. People love hearing about milestones, hobbies, or what brought you joy. Pair this with a forward-looking question such as, “What are you most excited about in the new year?”

Pro Tip: Avoid dominating the conversation—listening is just as important as sharing!

4. Holiday Travel and Adventures

For many, the holidays include travel to visit family or explore winter destinations. Conversations about favorite holiday spots or dream Christmas getaways can spark inspiration and curiosity. If traveling abroad, be mindful of culture differences, language barriers, attire, and holiday traditions. Use the State Department website to research such things to ensure a smooth holiday vacation.

Etiquette Tip: Be sensitive to those who may not be traveling or able to visit loved ones and shift the focus to inclusive ideas like local holiday events.

5. Festive Favorites

From holiday movies to seasonal music and books, festive pop culture is always a safe and lively topic. Ask questions like, “What’s your favorite Christmas movie?” or “Which holiday song always puts you in the spirit?”

Pro Tip: Turn this into a group activity by hosting a themed movie night or music swap.

6. Acts of Gratitude and Kindness

In the hustle and bustle of the season, many appreciate conversations about gratitude and giving back. However, be humble in your actions and remember that Matthew 6:2-4 states "....when you give to the. needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret." Instead, share stories of kindness you have observed. This encourages others to reflect on the true spirit of the holidays.

Topics to Approach with Caution

While the holidays can be a time for lively discussion, certain topics—like politics, controversial opinions, or critiques of others’ traditions—are best avoided. Instead, focus on inclusivity and positivity to ensure everyone feels comfortable and valued.

Guiding Conversations with Grace

As we gather with loved ones, colleagues, and friends, let us remember that the best conversations come from a place of curiosity and kindness. This Christmas, embrace the opportunity to learn more about those around you while sharing a bit of your own heart.

At Guided by Grace Consulting, we believe that etiquette is more than rules—it’s a way to bring people together. May your holiday season be filled with meaningful connections, warmth, and grace.